Kind and fetish are broad terms synonymous with the majority of people. Kink is an unconventional sexual interest, while a fetish is more particular. Generally, fetishes are non-human objects that trigger sexual arousal in some people. In simple terms, kink is some scene play like spanking, handcuffing, bondage, etc. Alternatively, a fetish is a specific stimulus like feet, certain clothes, gas masks, etc.
When you use Flingster, an anonymous online sex chat room there will be a lot of terminologies used in BDSM chat gay.
Dom/dominant
The majority of kinks are enjoyed through sexual dynamics dominant & submissive. One person is submissive and the other takes charge and is called dominant or domes [male] and dommes or dominatrixes [female].
Sub/submissive
The submissive partner is always controlled by the dominant.
Switch
A switch can be a male or a female that enjoys both dom and sub-roles.
Limits
Limit is a specific point beyond which the dominants are not allowed to go. Every submissive male has different limits. Soft limits are those things the submissive partner is mostly against like a golden shower. Hard limits are non-negotiable like the presence of blood during the scene.
Safeword
Beginners and experienced BDSM partners must have a safe word that the submissive uses to stop the scene like a finger snap or hand clap. Safewords are nonnegotiable. Unsafe dom is not welcome in the kink community.
Leather
Many guys feel excited at the look and feel of leather clothes, harnesses, boots, etc. Leather is a popular fetish material and linked closely to BDSM for years.
Bondage
Bondage is an erotic feature of BDSM. It helps to immobilize the submissive with a rope, chain, handcuff, leather cuff, mummification, and stocks.
Spanking
A well-aimed slap on the thighs or buttocks heats things up. BDSM players choose to explore the scene with many items like paddles, whips, kitchen utensils, and belts.
Golden rule – Remember to play safe in BDSM!
